Loving a woman

[vernard]

"You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before and she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect - you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there."

— Bob Marley

I suspect that if I followed this advice than I would have avoided breaking and having broken a heart or two in my life.

Comments

[reannon.livejournal.com]

Reposting this.

[kbhakkoah.livejournal.com]

Wow... I like this.

[mieper.livejournal.com]

doesn't this also apply the other direction (or is this my guy-brain talking)?

[irtluhc.livejournal.com]

Wow, thanks for sharing that, V. Why is it that the more I learn of Bob Marley, the more in awe I become.

[vernard.livejournal.com]

My rational mind says of course they are equal. But when I think of it in terms of Mr. Marley then its not so clear cut.

Yes, in that Mr. Marley saw that both loves can be as powerful and strong. No, in the sense that when a woman gives her heart to a man its seen as somehow a bigger decision than when a man gives his heart to a woman. Its kind of a weird chauvanistic and chivalrous mentality.

A woman's choice of who to love is somehow more significant than a mans. Probably something to do with it being primarily a male dominated world and all that rubbish.

*shrug